CHOICE OF PARTNER

CHOICE of PARTNER
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Some basic factors to
consider before accepting a proposal or before proposing continues:
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1. God Is he/she a born again christian? Are the things of God so paramount in his/
her heart? Is there fear and love of God in his/her heart? If he/she does not love God, such person cannot love you because God is love.
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Sisters, it is the fear of God that keeps a mate faithful.
Beauty will not! Sex will not! Beauty or sex cannot guarantee faithfulness.
Your beauty does not
make another woman
ugly neither do your so called bed styles makes another woman 'styleness'.
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Same goes to the men, your appearance, accent
and so on may get her
attention; but only God in you will get her heart for you! (As long as you're and she is His child.) Your 'niceup' won't make
another man 'nicedown'.
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God is the real deal believe it or not!
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2. Who is he/she?
You need to know
something about this
person, that is why
friendship is important because it is when you're friends that you can know
some things about him/ her.
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Check out for the level of maturity, how does he/she respond to quarrel, his/her
relationship with the
parent and others,
intellectual compatibility, how does he/she handle
finances.
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If you are a spender, then he/she must be a planner.
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Make sure you both do not have the same weakness, he/she should be able to
make up for your weakness.
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3. Communication skills! Is he/she the type that don't get in touch with you well? What is his/her
opinion about
communication? Is he/she comfortable around you to discuss his/her fears, worries, past and future ambitions.
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Listen, communication is
an important ingredient in any relationship that
needs to be taken so
serious.
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4. Love ! You need to be in love, I really mean you have to
be in love genuinely, not compelled or coarse into loving the person but a real love.
Do not accept a proposal out of pity, don't beg to be
in a relationship because if you beg him/her in, you
will have to beg him/her to stay with you forever.
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Love is not a maybe thing, you know it if you're in love. Do you love this person well, look into the nearest 10/15 years if Christ tarry, will you still
be loving this same person like now?
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Are you loving out of
desperation? Don't go into relationship desperate, take time to grow in love, do not be in a hurry.
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Once you 'fall in love'
there is no way you can fall out of love because it will stay in your mind, heart and soul for the rest of your life, so think well
before you say or stay in love.
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There is more to love than the feeling, it is a decision!
A decision to be with that person good or bad and for the rest of your life.
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5. Are you ready?
You must understand that relationship is not only about receiving, it is also
about giving.
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Ladies, what do you have to offer the man, it not your beauty that will pour into your children, it is what you have inside,
when you have something to offer, to make a difference in the man's life, then, he is actually favoured from the Lord.
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Men, are you man
enough? I'm talking about maturity now not your six packs chest :) , can you handle her past?
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A true relationship is
having someone who
accepts your past,
supports your present,
loves you and encourages your future. Are you ready
for the responsibilities ahead? (Not only
financially)
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Marriage is not a
competition, take your time, be in love, groom your relationship, nurse
your ambitions, because FOREVER is pretty too long to be UNHAPPY!!!
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#Confession: I shall not regret my marriage
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#Prayer: Help me oh Lord to get it right while choosing a life partner; help me not
to miss your plans for my life in marriage in Jesus name. #AMEN
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#stay_blessed